The “one” in this slogan is ego clinging, which is painful because being uptight all the time about myself makes me very vulnerable to suffering. Whenever I notice I am acting habitually – whether it’s blaming, wallowing in self-pity, pondering others, or any of the many other patterns described in the last sub-section – I could let the story line go and touch into the feelings and sensations beneath it. By relating directly with the experience, free from story and projection, I might recognize that the root cause of the whole thing is the belief that I am somehow separate and independent from the world and others. This can be a reminder to recognize my inherent nature as an interdependent part of all that is. This is really something different! Once I recognize that there is really no object for the blame, anger, frustration or whatever, the pattern itself becomes a paper tiger and collapses on its own. Then I can make friends with the situation.