8. Begin the sequence of sending and taking with yourself.

I love this slogan because it reminds me that I am part of “all beings” and thus my benefit is important too. This is a way to begin to make friends with the messy parts of my life, developing kindness and compassion for myself in order to cultivate it toward others.

This is also actually a brilliant starting point for the Tonglen practice, because my own suffering is one topic in which I am the only expert. It can also be helpful to have my own experience as a reference point for the practice, especially when I’m finding it difficult to connect with the suffering of others.

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